Mom's response email was just too long to completely ignore. I had to get my one point across. Kathy Doherty, you aren't perfect, you weren't when you got me, you never will be and I'm not either and that's okay .
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I knew you couldn't just listen... Defensive guilt trips were going to follow... Now, I don't have much else to say because each of your emails only make me worse... this is no dramatic exaggeration but your last one had me in crying in bed for the whole day - catholic guilt at it's best, eh? I just wanted you to understand ONE THING you kinda fibbed through in your last email.

I heard you on the phone perfectly: you didn't want to plan until I am mentally healthy and working full time... In fact, I SAID THE WORDS FOR YOU! Truthfully, no, I can't promise I'll be there in 10 months, and Craig knows that. It doesn't change anything between us, besides our personal fiances, and those are looking up for him. When he told his parents the wedding was postponed because of my mental condition, his parents were shocked... just so you know, not EVERYONE thinks you did the right thing...

The bottom line is I'm shocked you had so little faith in me as to do / say those things in the first place. I know you see this as being something good and "right", something to save me. But now, you've made yourself from a wedding planner to MAYBE being an invitee.

AND since all your money is off the table, why don't you print all these off and take these emails to a psycho-therapist, have him/her read it and talk out some of your issues. I don't think I'm the only one here who needs help... and I'm the daughter so you talking out your "lonely" or "Dad issues" with me is innappropriate. Go see a shrink... or be a weeping widow your whole life, I don't care... but I don't want any more of the ongoing saddness, guilt and mind-games from you.

Pained by you, beyond belief...
m.

PS - You won't get any more emails (or calls) until I see my shrink or I'll end up committing myself for 48 hours for assessment (almost gone twice). My meds are not enough to deal with this kind of hurt alone and everytime I read one of your letters I feel manipulated, guilted...really mostly manipulated - you're really very good at it.

PPS - If you really are trying to show love, try saying NOTHING but loving words. It's a good place to start. Sadly I can't be the bigger person to do that, because I'm the DAUGHTER.